Tuesday was a happy day around here. You started Kindergarten!
I won’t get too deep, but I do want to note three things that I am taking away from this week:
Preparation is key.
Aside from the typical school supplies and paperwork, kindergarten is a milestone for the entire family that takes preparation. Before the summer began, I was sure to mention how things would change before the changes actually occurred. I didn’t want you to be caught off guard. We talked about new school routes, rode by your new school often, chose new decor for your room …that you would be sleeping in. by yourself. in your own bed. (We are still working on that part.) š We shopped for clothes and shoes (shoutout to your godparents). We even began picking out your clothes the night before. This one is one of your favorite parts about our new normal. Your other favorite part is that you get to ride a van to after school.
Parents must parent.
I think it’s important to note the intricacies of co-parenting under two roofs here. It is challenging! I do my best to remain civil with your dad, even when we don’t agree (which is a lot). But I can honestly say that it was so special that he was present for your first day of school. He made it a priority to show up and help celebrate you on your special day. We all even rode in the car and walked you into class together. Trust me, this is a big deal! And it just reminds me, that even in the midst of all of the complicated realities of co-parenting, it all comes down to making sure that YOU know you are loved. I love the bond that you have with each of us and pray that those bonds continue to strengthen throughout your life.
Transitions take time.
I was mentally prepared to change our daily routines once school started. I was physically prepared to set up your “new” big girl room. I was even spiritually prepared to lean on the Holy Spirit for wisdom and guidance. But I admit- I was NOT totally emotionally prepared for this.
The excitement of new chapters can occur simultaneously with anxiety of the unknown. When you refused to smile for photos or kiss me as I was leaving on your first day… or when you had meltdowns every evening this first week (hello, earlier mornings and no more mid-day naps!) š©… or when you insisted that you would walk yourself to class on just the second day of school… and lastly, when your total disposition shifts everyday as the safety patrol opens the car door for you to walk to class by yourself. I see your nerves rise up and I want to protect you… and hold your hand. But at the same time, I know that these are growth moments for you. I was reminded by my best friends that the confidence you’re showing is evidence that I’m doing what I’m suppose to do as your mother… giving you roots and wings. Yes, that’s it!
I have no doubt that you will excel academically because you are already so intelligent, observant and have a love for reading and math. My greatest hope for you this year is that you grow in the areas of kindness, responsibility and identity. Thank God we have village (family, friends, church family, and educators) to help us on this journey.
I love you, Babycakes, and I am so proud of you. Let’s show kindergarten what we came to do! (oh, that rhymed!) š haha
Love,
Your Mommy